Baby Reindeer true story: Creator Richard Gadd on his "bonkers" stalking ordeal

The series follows Donny Dunn (Gadd), a struggling comedian who, after a seemingly harmless act of kindness, finds himself relentlessly harassed by a stalker called Martha (played by Jessica Gunning).

Baby Reindeer is fictionalised, but the show based on creator Richard Gadd’s own stalking ordeal, drawing on events that occurred in real life.

Gadd recently spoke out to urge those watching the show not to speculate on who the characters could be in real-life after its billing as a true story prompted a surge of internet sleuths to attempt to figure out the real identities of each character in the show.

In a statement on Instagram, Gadd wrote: "Please don't speculate on who any of the real-life people could be. That's not the point of our show."

Wondering what actually happened to Gadd in real life and what motivated him to write the series?

Read on for everything you need to know about the true story behind the show, which is based on Gadd's hit Edinburgh Fringe one-man theatre show of the same name.

Is Baby Reindeer a true story?

Yes, Donny is a fictionalised version of actor and comedian Richard Gadd, who created, wrote and stars in the series as the character.

Gadd first met his stalker, who he has called "Martha", while he was working at a pub. He offered her a cup of tea on the house, a small act of kindness that was, unbeknownst to him, the gateway to her obsession with him.

Over the course of three years, she sent him more than 41,000 emails, voicemails totalling 350 hours, multiple social media messages and 106 pages of letters.

She not only came to his shows, she also turned up at his house – none of which was punishable by law because her behaviour was not considered physically threatening.

"There were times when it was so life-debilitating that I couldn't believe it was allowed to get to that point from a legal perspective,” he told Time Out back in 2019.

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Eventually, two-and-a-half years down the line, Gadd did manage to get a restraining order taken out against her. But in a conversation with The Guardian that same year, he revealed that his stalker, who was still out there, had also subjected his family and friends to harassment.

And yet, Gadd's "motivation" for writing Baby Reindeer wasn't to highlight the fact that "men get stalked too", although it will undoubtedly prompt discourse around that.

For him, it goes far deeper.

"What motivated me to write it is when I was going through it, I was like, 'This is bonkers. How long is it going to go on for? How hard it is to get it all sorted? Why isn't there help for her?'," he told RadioTimes.com.

One of the most interesting aspects of Gadd's story (and possibly bewildering, for some) is the sympathy he has for his stalker.

"When I was getting stalked... I saw someone who was unwell, needed help, was quite vulnerable," he said. "Stalking is a mental illness and it comes from a sort of fantasy addiction of some kind, this idea that this person is the answer to all your problems, so you'll hear only what you want to hear, disregard the rest."

And that didn't chime with what he'd previously seen depicted on screen.

"I hadn't seen that on television before and I actually think that when I was going through it, I just felt like it was an important story to tell... [and] that was important for people to understand," he added.

"Martha does bad things in the show, but I hope to think at times it all comes from that woundedness, that place in her, I think.

In the fourth episode, Gadd also confronts another painful chapter in his life that preceded being stalked: his sexual assault, which he turned into stage show Monkey See Monkey Do.

But despite the two ordeals being separate, Gadd believes his sexual assault "really serviced the Martha plot".

"It's very important to show how much that had impacted me and how much it had impacted the Martha relationship," he explained.

"The thing is, when Martha enters in episode 1, what I think the audience feel is, 'Why is he indulging her?' You're cringing and you wonder why he's doing it. But I think once you take the audience through episode 4 and you flashback and go through all those things, by the time Martha enters at the end of episode 4, you're like, 'Oh thank God, she's back.' You understand really why Donny did it."

As with the subject of stalking, Gadd also believed he had something new, or certainly more truthful to say about sexual assault.

"On a fundamental level, you see sexual abuse in television – not all the time – but a lot of the time as an anonymous figure in the night," he said. "But a lot of abuse happens in power dynamics, work dynamics, relationship dynamics, all those kinds of things. I hadn't really seen the psychological complexity of it too often on television and I really wanted to show the perniciousness of the grooming cycle, just as much as the abuse cycle.

"Abuse survivors can feel just as much shame about the idea of feeling duped or the idea of feeling manipulated. One of the feelings that was left with me after everything was, 'God, I just feel so stupid’. I think being so honest, not just about the assault but how it got to that point, I hope will provide comfort for people who are maybe going through the same thing."

But of course sharing his story on stage at the Fringe is a different kettle of fish to broadcasting it on Netflix, where it's now available to an audience of tens of millions.

"The idea that a lot of people are going to know my business is quite intimidating, and I did this show to about 200 people a night when it was a theatre show," he said.

But it's not just about people "knowing his business". It's also about how sharing his experiences will shape people's perception of him.

"It's funny because you spend your whole life kind of running trying to escape the mire of what it's like to go through some of these things – the psychological impact it has," said Gadd. "Then of course, you put it out into the world and you also don't want to be defined by it.

"Inevitably, you probably will be, in some ways, twinged with these experiences for some time."

But as Nava Mau, who plays Terri (also based on a real person), notes, Gadd's candidness is an act of bravery that only deserves our praise.

"I feel lucky that as much as he can see other people, he can also see himself, and he's not afraid to show the world."

How much of Baby Reindeer is true?

Naturally, certain details have been changed to serve a "satisfying television production", such as the "shifting around" of timelines, "just to make a little bit more sense". But "it is a true story", said Gadd.

Specific details concerning the real-life figures involved have also been altered to protect them.

"It borrows completely from an emotional truth and a lot of the instances that happen in Baby Reindeer are very truthful," he continued. "I never really compromised on that, the energy of the characters.

"But obviously, we've had to protect other people to protect ourselves, we've had to change all the specific details of the characters because... it leaves everyone open to too much vulnerability on both sides."

Speaking to RadioTimes.com, Jessica Gunning, who plays Martha, also explained that as part of her approach, she "decided on purpose not to know much about the real person because it's not really helpful".

"I'm not doing an impersonation of her," she added. "All I'm doing is interpreting this character, so I didn't really do any backstory aside from what was in the scripts."

Who is the real Martha from Baby Reindeer and where is she now?

The real identity of Gadd's stalker is unknown; he gave Baby Reindeer's stalker character the name "Martha" for his one-man show at the 2019 Edinburgh Festival – and now for the TV series – to keep her identity hidden.

Given that "Martha" is a fictionalised version of Gadd's stalker, it's not clear where the real-life figure is now.

In the show, Martha is eventually imprisoned for nine months for stalking Donny and receives a five-year restraining order.

In an interview with The Times, Richard said that the stalking issue is "resolved".

He added that he had "mixed feelings about it" as he "didn't want to throw someone who was that level of mentally unwell in prison".

Gunning, who portrays Martha in the series, recently spoke out against those speculating on the identity of the real-life stalker.

"I would urge people not to be doing that," she told Glamour. "I think if that is happening, I think it's a real, real shame, because it shows that they haven't watched the show properly. That's not the point of it in any way."

She continued: "Netflix and Richard went to extreme lengths to try and make sure that the identities were kept private for a reason... I deliberately didn't want to do an impersonation of somebody. I wanted to do an interpretation of this character."

Are the emails in Baby Reindeer real?

Yes, the contents of the emails shown on screen are actually real.

Netflix confirmed this fact in a reel on Instagram, adding in the caption: "These are all real emails from the @mrrichardgadd's irl stalker."

Anyone affected by Richard Gadd's story can find support by visiting the NHS website or contacting Victim Support.

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